TACT THE TACTICS

IS IT NECESSARY TO BE TACTFUL?

I have often heard people commenting about somebody in a negative sense that He or She is not TACTFUL.

By Tactful, do they mean Thoughtful or Intelligent?

No! they mean Diplomatic, Devious and Calculating.

So the question arises what one should then try to become.Tactful or Straight? Although the ideal answer should be StraighT but our modern society, unfortunately though, has attached a synonym to this word Inane.
And this triggers the downfall of moral values.

The word Tact brings Tactics, which means Strategy, which require Scheme, and scheming brain can never be free from adulteration and impurity. That means we are grooming our brains for Con behaviour by suppressing the natural instinct or Spontaneity which is always pure and beyond any scheme or plan.

Although Chanakya said, Dont be too straight because straight trees are cut first., he forgot that these are the parts of Straight trees only which provide maximum Strength to anything be it ceiling or railway track. Moreover, a child is born Straight, it is Social Malnutrition that bends him over time otherwise, the almighty wants him to remain as he was sent.

People might take pride in calling themselves Tactful, but if one day somebody calls me an Untactful person, which unfortunately I am not, it will be one of the biggest compliments of my life. Because it would reaffirm that I am still left with some bit of heart, I was born with.

To conclude, I would like to quote a wonderful couplet, which I wish everybody embraces:-
Mere Dil Ke Kisi Kone Mein Ik Masoom Sa Bacchha,
Badon Ki Dekhkar Duniya Bada Hone Se Darta Hai."

lets go! Whr? Out of the BOX

Out-of-the-Box Thinking. But where is the box???
We are always asked and have been stressed the easiest way for people to be creative was to think out-of-the-box, to break their paradigms or mindsets, their ways of thinking.
The detractors have pointed out often the damage such thinking can produce and stressed the counteractive effects upon the total organization and its more global goals and mission.
Occasionally creative type departments will entertain the idea of learning how to leave boxes but generally they already know how. Their problems center on the debris, anger, frustration they leave in their wake when they do tear done or damage boxes.
Instantaneous flash of the obvious occurred. An Aha!
Immediately jumping out of a box or tearing it down eliminates many possibilities of ideas and solutions that can come from staying in-the-box. If we stay in our box we can examine what has worked?, what hasnt worked?, what might work if we only....?, how can we capitalize on what is working while still changing or improving it?
By forcing ourselves to leave our box we cut ourselves off from the not-yet-understoods or not-thoroughly communicated or experienced existing knowledge within our existing box. Or as Sid Shore has tried to teach us for many years, Whats Good About It (our box)?
Out-of-the-box thinking would go beyond simply digging new holes it might involve looking in the air, under the sea or using other tools or methods beyond simply a shovel As Abraham Maslow has told us, If you see your only tool as a hammer (shovel), then you will see all your problems as nails (holes to be dug).

STOP IT

It was Wednesday noon @3 when my mom called me up all terrified and in apprehension asking me to cum straight home asap without uttering a word with anyone on my way to home. It was the first time my mom called me up this way. Many negative thoughts surrounded my mind. When asked the reason for her restlessness she told the horrendous news of the day before.
I live in a semi urban district of Haryana called Palwal. And commute to Delhi for education by train. I often get late while leaving college and reaching home. The local trains considered to be “safest” have two ladies coach like the one in metros. The trains as crosses the NCR becomes a troubling place to stay in the coach for next half hour. The eve teasing crossed its limits that day. The news with which she came across was the one shocking the whole district.
The last day a gal of 20s opposed the eve teasing done to her in the train the discussion turned to fight and the three boys persecuted with a knife in front of her caught her and tried to strip off her jeans. As the others objected and tried to catch them, the three of them escaped from the running train.
Genuine was the reason of mom being worried about me coz she know I am from the ones who instantly oppose such kind of acts and is ready to fight for such issues whether they are being done to me or other.
What sin did that girl has done for what she was punished this way? Is it juz dat she fought for the nasty words said to her. She don’t has the right to fight for whtever is being done to her by those inhuman, uncivilized, illiterate animals of society who do not consider girls to be humans or do not provide thm with the right of speaking, expressing or opposing the wrong which is human right.
Elders ask us to keep shut in such situations coz they are worried for us or rather afraid of few such animals roaming around on two feet calling themselves as males. They can say and speak whatever, wherever, whenever, whomever they feel like n make a fun of it. But what a girl goes through after that is what they can never understand. The girl with whom this happened
Attempted suicide and ended the pain in herself and this has been the result to many such incidents. What happens to those boys? Nothing at all. They live freely unashamed to bite someone else and end their lives. There is no solution to this problem this has been there since a long time and is continuing to increase. Being quiet or ignoring such things is never going to provide a solution to it. We must be strong and intrepid enough to fight against it. Lets not face any of such act again and give those monsters a slap to their brutality.

U R A TRUE FRND

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems,doubts, or fears.
But I can listen to you, and together we can seek answers.
I can't change your past with all it's heartache and
pain, nor the future with it's untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.
I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not
fall. Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happinesses are
not mine.Yet I can share in your laughter and joy.
Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to
judge.I can only support you, encourage you, and help you
when you ask.I can't give you boundaries which I have determined
for you,But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

Land at the right place!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5NQzsUMxpSA&feature=player_embedded We work hard right from nursery class, everyone expect us to be the topper. They make us study throughout day and night to score more and be the super duper intelligent so called genius kid of the proud parents. They want us to be the best. They provide us the best of possible education and want us to top the board exams, clear all entrance exams, and get admission in the best college in town. But what if you land up at a wrong place, a wrong institute or a wrong college that promises you and lets you dream of a bright future and land you in a pit. Not everyone can teach, so choose wisely and get complete information of the place where your future will be planned. Hindustan times comes up with a supplement of education times that allows you choose the best and leave the rest taki apke future ka fatoore na bane… Handful knowledge of the institutes, the dates when the application forms are out and from where one can get them is easily available at one place at your doorsteps. These information are authentic, well researched and trustworthy so that one can easily select the place where they want to start.

BEYOND THE QUOTE.

"If you work just for money, you'll never make it, but if you love what you're doing and you always put the customer first, success will be yours." Ray Kroc

You do not have to make the most money to be considered a success. When it comes to happiness, money is not the most important thing. First, love what you are doing and take full pleasure in committing yourself entirely to your work and the needs of your customers. This positive outlook will determine your new found success.

Well said in 3 idiots" Life is a race, Bhago" All our lives we keep running behind money, success, love and power. ray Kroc gives the essence of this race and ends it up wid a dot at the end of his statement in just 25 words.

What motivates you, inspires you, drives you to succeed?

The powerful words of inspiring people can influence your driving force to accomplish anything. Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. Live your life to the fullest and take pleasure along the way... always strive for success, take chances and live your dreams.

What goes away, comes back: Ye duniya badi gol hai!!!

We take birth in hospitals grow up with all the love and care of family and friends. We are to live the life to fullest and live every moment of our lives. Parents provide us with everything possible they can. Our desires never end and what ultimately we end up doing. We end up dying for what we desire or want to achieve. When we are child we were dying to grow up fast to shift from school to college. When we are in college we are dying for getting a good job and earn a good salary to get the power to buy what we desire. When we are doing jobs we are dying to get married and get settled. When we are married we are dying to have children to make a complete family and experience the delight of being called as parents. When we have children, we are dying to see them getting big, successful and getting married and having children. And at the end of the day we are dying in a hospital where we started, now we are actually dying but when we look back at time we realized that we spent our lives dying for what we don’t have but not living for what we have. Its right to have ambitions in life, have the desire to chieve something but loosing oneself, the essence of life and importance of living a happy and joyful life, is not correct.Someone truly said” Har pal yhan jeebhar jiyo jane yhan kal ho na ho….”